I Am Not My Hair

“I wish my hair were longer, shorter, straighter, curlier, black, no wait, blonde!” My self-worth was tied to my hair. The world said straight was beautiful, I spent hundreds on relaxers and flat irons. Then short and cropped was in, I chopped it all off. I avoided the water like the plague cause I had no time to re-do the do after it got wet.

When my hair began to break off, I chose ‘letting it be’ over going bald. And what a journey! I saved time and money, yes. But as I worked to whip my tresses into submission, I learned important life lessons like patience (will my hair ever be healthy?), perseverance (moisturizing, deep conditioning, no short cuts), and flexibility (tight curls yesterday, poofy for today). I gained a new appreciation for me, just like the women in Naked and Unashamed. Who knew writing the book, with the intention of touching others, would be the catalyst to my God-led transformation! Whether it’s your hair, purchased, natural or not, doesn’t matter. What matters is do you believe,

I am not my hair
I am not this skin
I am not your expectations
I am a soul that lives within

Bible Verse: “You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.” Song of Solomon 4:7 

Questions: What’s your hair story? How is your hair linked to who you are or who you perceive you are? Have you ever substantially changed your hair to get or keep a job? Have you ever substantially changed your hair in order to attract a man?

Check out this song: "I Am Not My Hair".