I'm Not Your Superwoman

“I can bring home the bacon (da-dada). Fry it up in a pan (da-dada). And never, ever let you forget you’re a man cause I’m a woman (dada). Naturally.” “Whatever you want, whatever you need. Anything you want done, baby I'll do it naturally 'cause I'm every woman. It's all in me.”  From the time I was ‘knee-high to a grasshopper’, it has been ingrained in me that women must do more, sacrifice more, give more, achieve more, oh and by the way, don’t complain. Don’t give-up or give-in. Just be more.

I had bought into the myth that I could move faster than a speeding bullet! I was more powerful than a locomotive! I could leap tall buildings in a single bound. I was in fact, superwoman. And for a while, I was doin’ it. I was gettin’ er done. Pregnant, 21 credits, 2 part-time jobs, in need of a place to live – Get It Done. Married, two children, full-time job, doctoral student – Get It Done. Meals to be cooked, house to be cleaned, children to be chauffeured, tutored, nourished, clothed, bathed, trained up, and loved – Get It Done. Lose weight, exercise, eat well, heal – Get It Done. Establish, nurture, and maintain friendships, grow spiritually, practice random acts of kindness, give back to society, help the helpless, feed the hungry, clothe the naked, present, organize, coordinate, all while smiling through the hot flashes ---- I’m Done. I Can’t Anymore. I Don’t Want to Anymore. The truth is I’m not your Superwoman, despite what I’m expected to be. Despite what I’d hope to be.

And to help me through this particular crisis of running out of steam, I went to the Bible, searching for women like me, and who should I find? The Proverbs 31 Woman. Have you read Proverbs 31? I, like Lindsey, from Naked and Unashamed, thought that she was perfect —the perfect wife, the perfect mother, the perfect citizen. And while it seemed to work for her, I believed that her kind of perfection was out of reach for me. Surely she was the figment of some man’s imagination no doubt, placed in the Bible to highlight my many, many shortcomings and imperfections.

And I almost hit the floor, one big ol’ pile of a discombobulated mess. But while I was in my anguish and despair, I do believe that God was simply delighted. He could finally catch up with me since I was no longer so busy and distracted and intent on getting it done! I was still and He could work with me. He whispered sweet nothings in my ear and encouraged me to read Proverbs 31 again… BUT this time, I was to read it through His lens of love and compassion. And so I obeyed for once and if I didn’t believe that the message shared in Naked and Unashamed was inspired before, I most certainly was affirmed of said inspiration through this very revelation of the Proverbs 31 woman. It’s too long to recap here, but check out the attached summary or better yet, buy the book (shameless plug, I know 😊 ). 

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What I learned (if I can be honest, what I’m still learning) is the only way to truly Get It Done is To Be Done. Be Done with the running and the rigor and this rat race we call life. Be Done with the unrealistic expectations. Be Done with right-nows and the should’ve-been-done-yesterdays. Be Done so that God can Get It Done. Let go of the misguided definitions of womanhood that the world gives us. Let go of unrealistic expectations. Toss your To-Do-List out the window. Shred your Strategic Plan. Let go of your goals. Be still a while (Psalm 46:10). Ask God to establish your steps (Proverbs 16:9). Ask Him to set your agenda for the day (Jeremiah 7:23). Reprioritize, making Christ the center of your life (Matthew 6:33). I promise you’ll be refreshed, rejuvenated, and restored.  It’ll feel strange at first, sort of awkward, backwards. Being Still to Get It Done. Standing in order to Move. Waiting in order to Act. But this I do promise, you’ll be able to Get It Done; not by your might but by God’s strength and power (Zechariah 4:6).

So the next time someone asks you what’s your super power, whether it be in your “I am woman hear me roar” voice or the “unfading beauty of your gentle and quiet spirit (I Peter 3:4)” voice, let them know:

My super power lies in the mighty name of Jesus, Who by His strength I am able to do “all things” while wielding the sword of the Spirit, take on rulers and authorities of the dark world while protected by the breastplate of righteousness, counter lies and distortions while girded with the belt of truth (Ephesians 6:10-18, Philippians ), dream big, and live large because of the one who does exceedingly more than you’ll ever imagine (Ephesians 3:20). I am able to run against an army, able to leap over a wall! (Psalm 18:29).  I am forever changed – no longer your idea of superwoman but God’s plan and design for me a woman. I am God’s Superwoman.

As a recap, we’ve been exploring the principles of SUBMIT as described in my novel, Naked and Unashamed. So far we’ve examined the principles of Submission, Unconditional Love, and Being Beholden. For the next six weeks, we will continue our sojourn through the principles of SUBMIT as we explore the concept of MOTIVATION.

Join me as we uncover God’s time-saving, energy-boosting, goal-setting, life-mapping, strategic planning, God’s way so we can Get It Done!

From My Heart to Yours,

Davenia

Reflective Bible Verse:

Zechariah 4:6 So he said to me, "This is the word of the LORD to Zerubbabel: 'Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,' says the LORD Almighty.

Reflections:

  • What are your thoughts regarding the superwoman complex? What are your thoughts about the world’s characterization of superwoman versus the Biblical superwoman?

  • How have you thought of the Proverbs 31 woman in the past? After Lindsey’s analysis and her regrouping of the texts, what do you think of her now?

  • Make a list of all the things you have to “Get Done” on a daily basis. How does writing and reviewing the list make you feel? How do the things on the list help or hinder your walk with Christ? How might your list differ from God’s personalized list for you?

  • What would it mean for you if you were to throw out your to-do-lists, plans, goals, etc and spent time (real, deep soul-searching time) seeking God’s purposes and plans for your life?

  • As a result of all that you “Get Done”, how has all of the doing by your might left you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually?

  • How might your life be improved if you “Got It Done” by God’s might and power rather than your own? What’s keeping you from “Being Done” so that God can “Get It Done” on your behalf?