I Surrender All

Welcome to our year-long journey together through what I’ve termed the Big S. No, not that “Big S.” The other one. The one that seems to cause much consternation, has led to many unhappy relationships, and is widely misunderstood. You know the word –     SUBMIT.

If you’re anything like me, you’re thinking, “Oh no, not that topic.…again.” Wouldn’t we be better off if we just didn’t talk about it, you know, just let sleeping dogs lie? Well my friend, I tried to fight it. I tried to get through life remaining in control of my marriage, my career, my home, my friendships, and even my church service and worship. Experiences early on in my life taught me that maintaining control of every aspect of my life would keep me safe and would keep things predictable. Sure, I wouldn’t experience extreme highs – you know, those exhilarating peak moments; but that was a price I was willing to pay so that I didn’t have to experience any extreme lows either.

And for the most part, this strategy worked. That is, until I got married. Being in control sure wasn’t going to work in my household. And as you get to better know me and the love of my life, Derrick, you’ll quickly understand that I am married to a “man’s man” – a true leader, a take charge, take care of, head of the home kind of man. The kind of man I dreamt of but not one that I was ready to relinquish “control” of my life to. So short of spending my life in a little orange jumpsuit for being charged with first degree murder or joining the ranks of divorcees like so many I knew, I promptly understood that I better figure this whole submit thing out, and I’d better do it quickly.

Now before you sign off thinking this blog post isn’t for you because a) you’re not married or b) you’ve got the submission thing all figured out, I ask you to hang in there just a little while longer. See, marriage is what prompted my journey. Marriage is what served as my training camp, if you will, as learning to submit to my husband was just a precursor to learning to submit to God. In addition, I also learned that God not only wanted me to submit in my marriage, but He was calling me to relinquish control to Him in EVERY aspect of my life – home, work, relationships, and church. The principles of submission that I’ll be sharing with you will work in marriage, yes, but they are also principles that can be applied to everyone in every situation.

So this blog is for YOU – single or married, young or old career woman, working mother in the home only or working in the home and in a career (because if you’re a mother, I’m sure you can attest to being a working mother whether you stay at home full-time or not). And if you have it all figured out, this blog’s still for you as I most certainly can learn from you, as it’s a journey I’m still on, and I’m sure other readers can learn from you too. Women seeking to live a life surrendered to Christ, this blog’s for YOU!

Our journey through the concept of submission will be a mix of my journey as well as the journey of the characters in my novel, Naked and Unashamed. And no, you don’t have to read the book to benefit from the blog posts or from the website, but reading it would certainly help give you another perspective, help better highlight the concepts of submission, and help you dig deeper in an entertaining way. Okay, enough of the shameless plug.

The six principles of submission that we will explore via this blog are:

S — Surrender
U — Unconditional Love
B — Beholden
M — Motivate
I — Intimacy
T — Trust

To get the most benefit from this journey, I recommend the following: 

  • Each week read the blog post (they will always be posted on Sundays).
  • Reflect on the discussion questions via a journal (Read more about the benefits of journaling in the Resource Section of the website).
  • Be prepared to commit to memory one Bible verse a week. By the end of the year, it is my goal that each of us will have committed to memory 52 Bible Verses! The Bible says “Let the words of Christ dwell in us richly” (Colossians 3:16) and Deuteronomy 6:4-9 tells us to bind the word of God in our hearts and the word of God will transform your life (Romans 12:2). (For more tips on delving deeper into scripture and on memorizing Bible texts, see the Resource Section of the website). 
  • Let the selected songs for the week fill you as you commit to living the principle being addressed (Songs are posted every Wednesday to get you over that weekly “hump day”).
  • Pray daily that God will reveal to you a greater understanding of His word. Ask God to guide your journey as you commit to a life surrendered to Him. (Prayers will be posted each Monday and for more tips on praying scripture over your life, see the Resource section of the website). And know that you don’t have to pray alone. Visit my website and submit your prayer requests there and a group of committed prayer warriors will be praying with you and for you!
  • Share your experience, your questions, your thoughts, etc. with me and other women committed to this journey via the comment section of the blog or on other social media venues such as Twitter and Facebook

I’m excited to begin this journey with you and I look forward to your experience of living a life submitted to Christ, reaping the abundant and exceedingly marvelous blessings of our Lord!

Totally submitted,



  • There are lots of opinions in world about the concept of submission. What are some views, definitions or beliefs that you’ve encountered in relation to the concept of submission. What should we do with the information that we’re bombarded with on a daily basis? How do these messages impact your perceptions and practices? Compare these perceptions with Bible.
  • If the Bible is to serve as our barometer by which we measure everything, how feasible do you think it will be to live life according to the Bible?
  • Ask God to open your heart and your mind as you begin this journey, learning to submit to His will and to His way.